I have seen people, especially with single family residences, work constantly to have their property look 'nice' in their definition of a pretty site. They mow meticulously, edge along their curb, hedge and clip every shrub to within an inch of the 'perfect' shape (although I have yet to understand the reasoning behind creating great boxes, funny inverted cones or giant bowling balls out of their shrubs) and use ridiculous amounts of chemicals - both fertilizers and pesticides - in an all-out and on-going assault on their land. The end result is indeed something very neat and tidy. It is also something very unnatural and uninviting, and it is a harsh place for the owner who has to maintain it, anyone planning to spend any time there and for the environment in general.
Does that grass really look better with a perpetually severe low cut and a permanently blunt edge just back of the curb? Have they really even looked at it, or is this simply ingrained into their psyche as the 'way to do things. Does that roll of bowling balls culminating with an inverted ice cream cone really look better than a shrub that is allowed to maintain its shape? Does an absolute monoculture really look better than something with multiple plant species? These are questions that only you can answer. Perhaps to you they really do look better.
|The natural shape of the plants comes from and annual pruning.|
Stop fight with your site and the plants that you use in it. You do not need to dominate. Try working within their inherent nature and you might find that you like the aesthetics you obtain. You might also find that you like the reduction in work and stress.